If things get even more serious, try getting her to sign a pre-nup that neither she, nor her family will try to convert you. Try to have a date night once a week and when your Dr Spouse has time off go somewhere. This is not about either of you individually. And even when they are home with you Expectations of time together is a mirage. I had a busy career and tried continues that until my son was 3 years old and I realized that he saw us a few minutes during his awaken hours….
I hope that things will improve and I can adjust to all this. But if your faith is a key part of your life, this is huge. When you make the best choice for you, blessings will follow. But I do still largely consider us an interfaith couple. This can be done.
This can make it harder for you two to do things together. Oh, yeah, and this girl belongs to a verifiable cult. Not unless she thinks she can convert you. Let them see the good in you, and believe that their son or daughter has found a good match. It may not seem like a big deal now, but eventually it will probably surface that at best, the church impacts and influences her behavior in almost every area, at worst, it dictates it. She didn't tell anyone because her own lack self worth and shame petrified her to do anything about it. I've learned that when I need attention, it's best to ask for it rather than wasting time acting sad or frustrated. If you can genuinely deconvert her then cool. Is there even any sex at all in this fantasy.
If she won't reason with your investigation of the church, nope on out and go on your merry way. And the nonmember spouse may just put pressure on the member spouse to spend more time with them. My husband is finishing up residency and is never around. Some Mormon girls succumb to worldly laziness. If you can love them unconditionally with how they are now, then I say go for it. Better to now what you're going into in a relationship with a doctor or would-be-doctor.
